Why You Need to Let Go and Move
Forward.
We
all go through positive and negative experiences during our lives. Unfortunately,
most of us remember the unpleasant or negative situations - some of which go
back years or even all the way back to childhood - and we hang on to them. Some
of these events may have or happened 6 months ago. Something someone did may have angered us, caused us to build up resentment, seek revenge, etc - and we simply
don't let it go - we just keep thinking about it - as though it happened just a
few hours ago.
When
we hold on to these negative experiences we actually block our ability to moveforward and don't allow our self to heal. How
many pleasant memories do you recall everyday? Chances
are, like most people we have a number of unpleasant experiences that we're
holding on to, and that prevents us from moving forward. These
negative experiences can be anything; - a traumatic event that took place during our childhood or a
fight you had with a friend which resulted in a grudge that you still carry -
and because
of that grudge you no longer speak to each other. These
are the kinds of things many people carry - the more we carry the worse life
gets - it's that simple. Why?
Because
we've filled our mind up with negative experiences – by hanging on to something
that doesn't allow us to move forward. our mind and subconscious mind are too
consumed with the negative experience - that we cannot attract or allow
positive experiences to enter our life. our subconscious says - you like unpleasant
- I'll give you more of the same. And it's only because we're hanging
on to something that doesn't help us. We're
carrying useless baggage that's really slowing us down. Think of it this way -
you're on a trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things
that really don't serve you - but you want to hang on to. After a while - the
excess baggage begins to weigh on you. It slows you down and unless you get rid
of it - you'll never get to where you want to go.We
can begin to let go by simply getting our mind to focus on something different.
If
we really want to start moving on – then we have to get our mind to focus on
new things. When we do that we automatically let go of the negative events
and situations that have been slowing you down. Start
focusing on what you want to happen. Let
go of the past and negative situations by getting our mind to focus on
different things. Direct our subconscious mind to help us let go by giving it
new instructions.
How Not Letting Go
Can Ruin Your Health
Today,
researchers are looking into how holding on to negative feelings and emotions
impacts the nervous system and human cells. They believe that if you hold on to
negative feelings and sad emotions
or depressing memories there's a chance that you could reshape the human cell - to the point where
your thoughts of the past have a negative impact on your cells and your
physical health. Hanging
on to negative past events can destroy your life in ways you're not even aware
of. Sure there have been negative things that have happened - I'm not asking
you to ignore them - acknowledge them
- they did happen.
But
ask yourself these questions: Do they serve you any purpose? Do they help you
move forward? Do
they work in your favor in any way?
If
you said no to any or all of the above questions then tell yourself this:
This
emotion/feeling doesn't help me so I'm letting it go and focusing on what is
important.
Then
begin focusing on what you want next - focus on what is important and what can
improve your life.
When
you do what I just outlined you get your mind moving in a new direction. At
the same time you stop building negative energy that you created from the
negative events/emotions - that negative energy which only attracted more
negative situations.
When
you begin focusing on more positive things and focus on what you want you begin
shifting that energy and start attracting positive situations to help you
create the life you want.
The
next step is to create a new action plan - let's face it the past is over - so
what next?
Where
do you want to go now? How do you plan to get there? You
may not have the answers to all these questions - but merely thinking about the options and the future -
forces your mind to go in a new direction.
When
you do this - you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and emotions.
What
do you want to happen next? Carrying that anger and resentment no longer helps
you and doesn't serve any positive purpose - so you choose to let go of it.
But
what about your relationship with your friend - do you want to continue with
it?
Do
you want to improve it? Do you want to set the record straight? Do
you want to move on and forget about it? Holding
a grudge is not an option. Trying to make that persons life miserable is not an
option. Trying to get revenge is not an option.
Why
not?
Because
those actions are driven by emotions - which you just chose to let go of - so
what's next in the relationship?
When
you make that decision - you've already let go and begun moving forward.
If
you had a traumatic experience as a child and continually
re-live
that experience then choose to let go of it. Ask yourself - what now? What
next? Do you want to focus on your life now - and if so what do you want to
improve or achieve? Don't focus on what you
don't
want - focus on what you want.
When
you do this you've moved the mind away from the past, you've let go of unwanted
emotions/feelings and you're taking the next step - which is moving forward.
Your
success will depend on how you train your mind and subconscious mind to focus
on what you want.
Start
moving forward by choosing to let go of unwanted and negative situations or
events that you remember. Start moving in a new direction by focusing on what
you want. Begin taking steps to create the life that you want. Shift your
energy and get your subconscious mind to help you attract
positive situations.
Additional Resourses:
Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley - The Science of Letting Go: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/video/item/how_to_clear_your_head - This resource from the University of California, Berkeley explores the science behind letting go, focusing on the benefits of forgiveness and acceptance.
Mayo Clinic - Forgiveness: Letting Go of Grudges and Bitterness: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/forgiveness/ - The Mayo Clinic provides a practical approach to forgiveness, emphasizing the emotional and physical health benefits of letting go of grudges and bitterness.
HelpGuide - Letting Go: How to Release the Past and Move On: https://www.helpguide.org/ - HelpGuide offers a compassionate guide on letting go, with actionable steps to release the past and move forward in a healthier way.
Psychology Today - The Power of Letting Go: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/flex-your-feelings/202209/the-importance-letting-go - Psychology Today delves into the power of letting go, exploring its role in reducing stress, anxiety, and depression, and promoting overall well-being.
Mindful - 10 Ways to Let Go: https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/~/media/CCI/Mental-Health-Professionals/Generalised-Anxiety/Generalised-Anxiety---Information-Sheets/Generalised-Anxiety-Information-Sheet---03---Mindfulness-and-Letting-go.pdf - Mindful offers practical mindfulness techniques for letting go, including meditation exercises and strategies for managing challenging emotions.
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